Respect as a Starting Point for Developing Trust
Developing trust is vital in creating a relationship! When we developed the Circle of Trust, we chose the term respect the first tenant of the cycle. There was quite a bit of debate surrounding the work Respect. Many people believe that respect not simply given, but rather earned. If you look up the word you might find a definition such as: admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements, or even:
The state of being regarded with honor or esteem: a leader held in the greatest respect. Both of these definitions go towards the kind of respect that has been earned either through actions or granted through a position of power.
Respect for one’s humanity
“I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me…All I ask is that you respect me as a human being” -Jackie Robinson
This is the respect we had thought about as being necessary for developing trust. So, what exactly does that mean? Respecting someone for their uniqueness, for their free will, and for their ability to live the life they were born to live. It is a respect that does not have to be earned. It is one we should all grant other humans, no matter their position in life or what we believe to be their abilities or accomplishments.
Respect’s Relationship to the Circle of Trust
We believe this is the starting point for all human relationships. Without Respect as a starting point, what is the point? As you navigate through the circle, you will notice your respect for others abilities, qualities, and achievements will grow.
Where do we Start, how can I show respect at that level?
“When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect towards others” -Dalai Lama
We believe this can be a much simpler process than most of us make it out to be. It is a simple matter of practicing humility. Not thinking we are better or worse than anyone else. Being present, and accepting people as they present themselves. Practicing gratitude allows for humility. Being grateful for the gifts the world has offered and recognizing that these gifts were not created by us, but for us. In this mindset, it becomes easy to be humble. In this humility, it is easy for us to recognize the humanity in others, and show them the respect they deserve.